I have two college degrees and I'm looking hard at a master's program for the next year or so. Posted Aug 18, 2015 Of course I always respond, “girl’s gotta have dreams” Problem is, I told him once “it’s all about doing it”, when he was struggling with accomplishing a goal years ago. Whatever you do, do not have kids. Multiply them by 10. Katy. Feel free to PM me anytime. /r/Relationships is a community built around helping people and the goal of providing a platform for interpersonal relationship advice between redditors. Wash them out, put them in a bag to be 'recycled' place bag randomly in house and forget about it. I talked to him about it many times and he would say all the right things but really never do anything he didn't want to do (no cleaning, working or laundry but plenty of energy for hobbies). After many talks, I told him I wanted a divorce and he went off the deep end. Straight from Warlock's personal experience. I will lose the weight starting today! Cookies help us deliver our Services. After a tiring day, when you finally get some ease of time, with a book your favorite show, he starts hinting sex when you don’t want any. Lower your expectations and compromise. No threatening, no pointing fingers, and. If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married. You are his wife, his equal, his love deserving the same amount of respect and decency you bring up for him and if he continues this BS... Well... Make it clear and stick to your guns. By continuing to browse the site you consent to the use of cookies. c.1. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action. But even if it is, the answer is still the same. 5. It started to become clear to me that the way he had treated me while dating did not reflect his home life. I can only try to make myself happier. As lazy as I am with such things, I usually do remove the green. Now, in his defense, it could very well be depression. ... My husband always “forgets” to remove the green germ, inspite of years of requesting that he do so. After about 2 years, he moved into my home with me. I'm going to investigate counseling with my insurance company. If you want something done by a grown-up man, you will need a little change in yourself. Still nothing? All of a sudden he claimed depression (NEVER once had said anything like this before). Say hello on @stacespeaks. He claims he would get a part time minimum wage job such that I didn't have to go back to work for the full 12 weeks but I doubt in this market he could find one that would be willing to work with his present job's schedule let alone make enough to keep us afloat until I go back to work. So when I started acting like this, I thought it was laziness. This will only make him slack even more and make your lazy husband even lazier. Maybe you are expecting too much, and this can pressurize him. What’s more likely is that in a few areas that drive you crazy as a parent, he’s lazy and unmotivated. If he does what about then. 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The first thing he wouldn’t know where a spoon would be while searching for it he will mess all drawers and will not even bother to shut them. I thought of doing this funny meme thing after a call I had with ma noot, Digel. Of course, real life sucks and I'd prefer to keep playing monster hunter all day but tough I have to deal with it and make it through the day as functional social being as do you and as does he. Here are some of the signs of a lazy husband you should look out for. I can't give him consequences without making my own life suck. His laziness and sloppiness was barely an issue in the beginning - normal late teens/ early 20s behavior for both of us. Not registered yet? His needs and desires are more often more important than yours. Also watch: Positivity and support in marriage. I don't know your relationship at all, but usually the answer is somewhere in the middle and neither party is 100% right. If you have a lazy husband but aren’t sure, explore the following traits of a lazy husband and decide for yourself. I got my own home. You didn't mention he was an alcoholic but some of the behaviors you have probably developed are just like the spouse of an alcoholic. ... yet too lazy to take the first step of learning something new. Here is everything you need to know to take care of my OC, Onyx. This has brought great tension within the family. It made me feel immensely disrespected and taken for granted and killed my attraction for him. I also know that I enjoy my work (and thus try hard at it) while he just muddles through his job for the sake of our finances. This is one of the best tactics for dealing with a lazy husband. A lazy husband may be the hardest person to deal with, but it’s not an impossible task. My husband did indeed leave his job back in June and it was definitely the right decision, albeit with a few bumps along the way. 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